A very warm welcome to My Mentor. Many inspirational people have uttered encouraging words of wisdom over the years. We can be quick to throw thoughtful quotes like those rotating above into a conversation to ensure others think us wise and in tune with ourselves. But, are we? In reality, how many of us practice even 50% of the emotional wisdom that we preach on a daily basis, for ourselves let alone for others?
When my world first fell over in June 2004, supportive quotes drove me crazy when offered as well-intentioned words of advice from friends only trying to help. Deeply lost and believing there was no good reason to go on, I found it incredibly hard to ask for help. I believe the only reason I did was to finally address many haunting questions which at the very least needed answers.
And so began my journey of recovery from repressed anger and rage, sexual compulsivity— sex addiction— and from the most emotionally painful year of my adult life. It was time to start to unravel the effects of early trauma & child abuse and to understand how and why it had plagued my life for 30 years.
Over fourteen years later, I have found the answers to many painful questions. I live every day with a deepening curiosity and love of life, embracing an ever-growing peace within my own skin. I live knowing that there is a way back from an emotional abyss and the brutal cycle of addiction if we are prepared to do the necessary work.
Bolstered by the discoveries I have made about my own life, I now work to support others in seeking the inner peace I have been so fortunate to embrace. How did I come to desire this peace? How did I finally step out of the shadow of shame and addictive secrecy? Through turning to others and asking for help, I found the courage to take a risk, to challenge my highly defended & closed heart and recognise the importance of making different, healthier life choices.
I invite you to read on and share my story. My singular hope is that it may trigger enough identification in someone who is suffering, enough to encourage you or someone you care about to consider taking that first step, to reach out and to ask for help.
Listen to Mark’s Recent Interview with London-based Psychotherapist Noel Bell